It’s no secret at this point that I am a Top (though a bratty one I’ve been told) and that I have two brats. Having two brats brings about a special set of skills one must have to juggle them. One of those skills is having a set of consequences that can get a brat’s attention in one moment less they cause a literal tornado. Today, I wanted to talk about the consequences I’ve experienced as either a brat or used as a Top and give some advice or thoughts about each consequence. I’ll put this warning out now, that some of these, some people might not consider traditional TTWD consequences, but this is just our effort, to be honest, and open with you all about our lives and what works for us.
But first, how do we get to a place where a consequence is needed? As a Top, my role is to help brats reach whatever goal they have in mind. Through these goals, we find sets of rules or expectations that brat is expected to follow. When these rules are broken, or expectations are not met then it is time for consequences. In other words, as a Top, I do not set rules that a brat isn’t willingly agreeing to, except for health and safety. Safety is a non-negotiable for my relationships. As my brat, I do not want a lady to be harmed or put herself in harm’s way, so their first and most important rule is to keep their self-safe. Always. The second is health. This one is a bit more complicated, however, I always stress the importance of physical health in some way, if needed, such as getting enough sleep or taking required medications. I think the most important thing to remember is to communicate openly and honestly about all needs that the other has.
This first one is probably the most obvious, yet the trickiest of all the consequences that a Top can give out. Spankings can range from a light hand spanking to a harsh full force canning. Spankings don’t seem to work as a long-term consequence unless they are harsher in nature. Because of the person I am, I tend not to care too much for harsher spankings, therefore, I tend not to give them and use other methods of torture for long-term behavior modification. Also, a consequence at times can be withholding a spanking, which at times is what a brat might be looking for. Furthermore, changing the timing of a spanking can be another great consequence that a Top can use. Giving one out sooner than expected or waiting to give one can allow a brat to consider the seriousness of her actions. However, I do want to warn that changing the timing of a spanking does need to be discussed at least a little so that a brat doesn’t think you don’t care or are angry.
Mouth soaping for those that might not know is the act of washing the mouth with soap, which creates a bitter and burning taste that lingers for some time. To some, this consequence may sound juvenile in nature, because of popular media such as in the movie A Christmas Story, but I assure you it can be very effective in deterring actions such as cursing during a spanking or being disrespectful. I always advise the brat to not swallow while doing this consequence as it can cause a bit of a stomach ache. Furthermore, I find that if one stands in the corner while a bar of a soap is in their mouth the lesson really hits home.
Lines can be a good way for a Top to keep in check things a brat does that isn’t dangerous or necessarily harmful but something they need to remember. I like to use lines most when there is an attitude issue or when a brat forgets to do something like pay a bill on time. I find that too many lines, however, are not helpful because let’s face it there is a point when the brat will begin to resent you and the punishment or feel overwhelmed, which is not something you want to happen. Personally, depending on how busy the brat is and depending on the severity of the issue I recommend no more than 100 lines a day for a brat, especially if you don’t live with them and can’t make sure they have the actual time and privacy to do the lines. So, let’s say if you need to give them 1000 lines normally I would give them around ten days to do the lines sometimes less if It’s the weekend and they are not working.
Telling off might be a bit self-explanatory but it’s a lecture about behavior. I usually use this in addition to other consequences, such as a spanking. A ‘telling off” is usually a good way to make a brat squirm and consider all aspects of her actions. I find that at times it’s effective because a brat genuinely doesn’t want to disappoint their Top or let them down. By telling a brat this, it can bring on true remorse for their actions. However, be careful not to go overboard because this can be counter-effective. Forgiveness is important in all consequences, but especially in this form of consequences. Try having a brat stand in front of you and make eye contact while you lecture. Ask questions and expect an answer. Also, expect respect such as yes ma’am or no ma’am as you two discuss their actions.
Corner time is when you send a brat to silently and as still as possible to consider her behavior, most of the time standing in a corner or facing a wall. Another possibility is laying over the end of a bed or couch with face hidden focusing on her prone position. There are several variations of this consequence. One is having a brat lower her pants and panties to stand with her backside bare. Another is sending them before or after a spanking or while holding soap in her mouth. I’ve on occasion had a brat do daily corner time if she was truly struggling with an issue to strengthen her resolve. I find I usually have her stand there for either a set amount of time or until she has settled into position and relaxed, whichever works best for the brat. Also, I recommend reminding them what they are supposed to be thinking about while there and have a discussion afterwards.
Now, I know a lot of you are probably thinking this isn’t a normally TTWD consequence, however it is something I’ve used in my personal life and I think it works well for me. This is what you need to understand though. This must be one of those very express permission consequences for a brat. Some people for medical, personal or even religious reasons are absolutely against anything going up the backside, so it must be talked about in full detail before you assign this consequence. And I also don’t recommend you use it as a first choice as it is such a personal and intimate act. If you decide to go with a butt plug, start small, use lots of lubricants, and only use it for a short amount of time. Also, proper placement is important as well, you don’t want to be shoving it into your perineum (thin layer of skin between vagina and anus) and tear something. The aim is not to hurt your brat but to get her attention and possibly embarrass them. Furthermore, I wouldn’t require the brat to wear it for long or stomach cramps can occur, build up to longer times if that’s what interest you. And a warning from personal experience, research what is in the lube you use make sure to use something water based if you are using a silicone plug. Extra ingredients in lubricant (such as aloe) can be a natural laxative so that’s something to be aware of.
Clothing restriction is when a Top forces a brat to wear a certain article of clothing such as a skirt for serval days to contemplate their actions or forces a brat to go without certain clothing such as panties for a few days. Now, I know I shouldn’t have to say this but just to be safe obviously the brat must be fully covered out in public for legal reasons. (What you wear in the privacy of your own houses is up to you, so go for a no bottoms day if it suits your fancy. 😉 ) This can also be a tool a Top can use if there isn’t privacy for another consequence. Having her go to the bathroom and remove her panties for the rest of the day is sure to make her consider her behavior. There are several things to consider when doing this consequence. If there are any gender issues, please talk about this consequence with your brat before assigning them to wear an obviously feminine or masculine clothing option. Also, if your brat is having her time of the month obviously going without panties isn’t really an option either so check this first as well!
Grounding is self-explanatory as well. Grounding is when someone would lose privileges for some time. Grounding from things such as the internet, social media, or even watching TV for a day or so will force a brat to consider her behavior and is one of the most effective long-term consequences. One thing to consider is how possible it is for the brat to follow the grounding. Such as… if a brat might drive to work every day it’s not usually possible to ground them from driving during the week. Also, consider the length of time that the grounding is for. Most of the time if not always I’ve found a day or two is effective for the length of time. This is where it’s important to know your brat. Know what she likes to do in her free time and limit that.
Early Bed Time
This is an extension of grounding in a way. Being sent to bed early or even for a nap can help a brat be on time and generally allow her to rest if she is in a grumpy mood. Sometimes a spanking or other consequences aren’t needed, but more sleep and rest is. I use this most often though if a brat is late to school or work. If she is late that night she is in bed 30 minutes earlier. If she is late again the next day off to bed another 30 minutes earlier. Eventually, she will either be rested enough to not hit the snooze button or have enough motivation to get to work on time.
I want to end all this by saying again this is simply what works for us. My relationships are unique as are all relationships. Get to know the person you are with and find what works with you all. Communication is the foundation of our relationships. Remember, be safe, sane and consensual in all you do. Please let me know if you have any questions or thoughts in the comments! Also, if you bug my two brats enough maybe they will add some thoughts of their own about these consequences. 😉
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